About Me

May 30, 2014

Ah, now it's going to happen!!

We bought our little slice of heaven 14 years ago. 

Six months ago we designed our new home. 

Today, the building permits were approved. 

Signed, sealed, delivered, all ours.

This dream is now on the horizon .... scary!!

May 29, 2014

Can you help me out?

May I borrow your finger each day?
See the little blue box to the right of my posts? If you click on that, you've voted to have my blog be recognized. You can vote each day. I see many of you reading my posts and would love to "move up" in the world of blogging.

But I need your help.

No fees involved. I receive nothing but my blog will be rated.

Easy peasy.

Won't you help? Just click on it once a day and that's all that is needed. You'll have a sore finger at the end and I'll have a blog that isn't buried so far down that no one knows it's here.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!!

May 28, 2014

Getting my "MoJo" back!!

I am a sensitive being. 

There, I said it out loud!

I was "born this way", in the words of Lady Gaga!

But I work on it all the time ....

Tonight was a wonderful example of why I shouldn't let those who nick pick at me win. I was recently told that perhaps I needed to find a new career, that without a Masters Degree, I'm worthless to the field I work in. I, having heard this before, fought back with my numbers, my credentials and my awards. 

And then I stopped. 

Because I realized that every time this happens, with the senseless belittling and the critical words, the sad and angry individuals who are spouting are the ones that seem to either be struggling or have no confidence in themselves. So they pick on me and at 5 feet small, I'm a fairly easy target. 

No longer will I heed these words! Tonight, I presented a creative workshop I designed for families who have lost a baby. The 1st night in a series of 4 and a raving success. I had a lovely Power Point, we did art, we conversed, we shared, we supported each other and we basked in the knowledge that in such an isolating journey, we never have to be alone. With classical music playing softly in the background, the tears flowed, the laughter reined and the pictures were cherished. We ended a whole hour later than we proposed and I'm sure, if we could have, the room would still be full of bereaved parents until midnight!

Were my naysayers in the room?

Nope, but they didn't need to be because clearly, I got my "MoJo" back!!

Can't wait for next week's session. 

May 25, 2014

Car Boot Sale and Gardening!

We headed out early on Monday, our annual Victoria Day here in Canada. A day to relax from work and enjoy extra time with family and friends. Stopping at Starbucks for a cool drink on a morning that was promising to turn into a hot day. I enjoyed a frosty lime drink with a ice cream sugar cookies. Yum!

The Car Boot Sale is held at our local Antique Mall 4 times over the summer. This was the first date and the others will happen in June, July and beginning of September. I don't think we've missed one yet!

Brand new set of quilted pillow shams. Perfect for dressing up our boring deck loveseat. 

In perfect condition, I couldn't pass up this great wicker chair in dark sage green. Listed for $45 a piece inside the mall, the seller had just set them out and let me bargain them down to $30 .... for both!!

Youngest dd picked up this lovely tea cup planter at the greenhouse, our second stop after the boot sale. I love it and it was perfect for these fresh, new plants for the deck. More planting this coming weekend.

Another find at the Car Boot Sale, this pretty doily from the vendor who also sold me a lamp for our guest room and a vintage basket for my art studio. Pictures to follow in another post!

The second wicker chair set in between the two side chairs. The sweet deal of the day in our books!

The start of our summer deck. We have more items to put out and lots of gardening to do but the season is finally her and we're set to jump in with energy and enthusiasm for the sun, the rain, the dirt and the green!! I can't wait to add in all the other sweet little embellishments that make it so cozy and inviting.

Looking forward to our next trek into the City for the June Car Boot Sale. Fun place to find treasures!

How was your Victoria Day spent?

May 20, 2014

Which is worse?

Being "unfriended" on Facebook?

Or having someone delete their name off my list of followers? A faithful reader, now lost forever.

Ouch! Well, I've been unfriended on Facebook and now I've been deleted from a follower. And I didn't like either. But for some reason, being deleted by a blog reader feels a whole lot worse to me than being unfriended on a social media site. 

Not sure if it was my post on being, finally, after all these years, mortgage free. Or maybe it's my not so great photography skills. Boring posts? Not great fonts or graphics? My sunny disposition? My whiney complaints? Too few posts? Too many?

A short note to say "hey, I don't like your blog anymore" would have at least given me a reason why and a chance to fix whatever turned that person off. Now I can't fix whatever the issue was, as I don't know what it was!

I'm sorry to the person who decided to delete me. But thank you for the time you were here. Perhaps, our blogs will cross paths again in the future!

May 18, 2014

Mortgage Free!

I recently read an article from the U.S. that stated that Mortgage Burning Parties had fallen by the way side. And that it wasn't kosher to tell anyone you were mortgage free in this economy, that it is kin to bragging and making others feel worthless. So please excuse my next few lines if you will feel offended in any way. I will offer a sincere apology in advance. 

We are very excited to be just 4 days away from being Mortgage Free! To celebrate, we are having just our family over tomorrow for a burning of the mortgage papers ~ copies but with all the pertinent info on them. Having worked so hard all these years to get to this day, never once missing a payment, always paying more than the set amount so we could get out of it sooner, sacrificing but never feeling house poor, just lucky to be here, we felt it did deserve a regal celebration. Ice cream cake and coolers all around!! Maybe beer for dh!!

It is a relief to have this phase of our life done with. Yes, we are building a new house but the equity in this house and the savings we've accumulated should cover most of the build. If we run over, our plan is a line of credit that would be done quite quickly. This has always been and will always only be our only debt. We did it! Looking forward to lighting these special papers and watching the hot embers burn off into the cool night sky. 

Have you had a celebration 
to mark a financial milestone?

May 14, 2014

Big Decisions.

Spring has finally arrived! The grass is green, trees are budding and the dirt has become swallowed up by the color of tiny flowers pushing their way across the landscape. A beautiful time of year, full of renewal and promise. An inspiring and favorite phase for me.

My world has become vibrant again with the sound of bird song and motorcycles. Yet, during this season of birth and newness, I am bogged down with big decisions. My beloved job is suddenly not stable and there is pressure to move in directions that I'm not comfortable going towards. It's not fear, more of a stubbornness that the plan I've carved out is being questioned and tossed out the door without reasonable investigation. A fight may be brewing but until then, I ponder my options and begin to plan for pulling back programming, against my will.
The beauty of this short season is enough, for now, to keep me uplifted. My hope is that by the end of spring, there will be a more concrete structure for growth and stability. Or plan B will need to be executed!!

May 10, 2014

The Best Day Ever!

Today was the Best Day Ever! After a bit of a rough week both emotionally and physically, it was so lovely to wake up today to a bright, sunny sky & a warm Earth. Green buds are finally appearing and the birds sing all day long. Definitely makes the spirit feel lighter.
I normally don't work in the office on Fridays but today went in as I had a big presentation to do for Mental Health Week. Finished up a few last minute preparations, took some time to hand in my expenses, wrote up and submitted a bunch of invoices for counselling and group sessions, chatted with our ED about the path I want to take to embark on with the centre, then headed over to the high school to chat with a great group of kids who had signed up for my session. Engaged kids, a presentation that went smoother than I envisioned and the unexpected reward of a gift card at the end made it worth all the work to put it together.
Came home to start packing my suitcase. My mom and I are off to the coast tomorrow to visit with family and honor my uncle who died last week. A sad occasion but one we were expecting. I am looking forward to seeing our two sons and their families, especially our little grandchild Lua! A friend popped in with more moving boxes for us, then I headed over to our centre to tidy about the office and make sure I could go away without any pressing tasks to be handled. Visited with my staff, then headed over to the hall for the Family Dance to set up. Our grandson had a great time pushing chairs up to the tables and setting out the balloons. Went home to get dressed up, then we spent the next few hours visiting the families who came out, danced with our little guy and our girls, ate some great food and bid on three auction items, which we won! This event went so well, with more than double the number of families this year compared to last and we made money!!
After cleaning up, we came home to tidy the house and finish packing my suitcase. I did laundry, swept the floors, put away all the paperwork, did the recycling and paid the bills. Now I'm ready to leave, with my world in order and the sun shining on the coast.
Was today the best day ever for you?

May 4, 2014

My Mother Heart.

Today is International Bereaved Mother's Day. A day to celebrate and honor the brave, courageous and spirited mothers who have said goodbye to their precious babies, many before they got to say hello.

My name is Chy and I have a Mother Heart. Today, I miss our son Bretton-Elijah Lucas, our daughter Ciara-Rose Kennedi and all six of the tiny babies we lost too early. My heart is full of love for the children we were gifted to raise to adulthood: Chelsea-Danielle Kathleen, Brady-Kahil Liam, Brodie-Joshua Kylie and Chynna-Jade Lyric. My heart is full of gratitude for the love of my life, Bill - a.k.a. Bear - who allows me the freedom to grieve, create and express my journey, without judgement and with unconditional love and support. My heart is full of sweetness for the two little souls who have graced our lives, captured our hearts and made us grandparents: Beckett William and Lua Oak. And my heart is full of sorrow with the knowledge that our family will always be incomplete, we will always grieve and we will never know our babies as children, teens and adults. Forever, they remain a dream, a wish and a longing hope in our hearts.

To all the Bereaved Mama's I have been blessed to meet over the last 18 years, today, I hold you in my heart as you remember with love, your sweet babies. May your day be filled with family love, gracious wishes and heartfelt hugs. 

Today, do you have a Mother Heart?

May 2, 2014

Defining Moments.

When my boyfriend asked me to marry him, I became a fiance, a defining moment in my life. From this sweet time on, I would have a life partner, someone to share the rest of my journey with. A true love, with all the ups and downs to come our way.

When my boyfriend asked me to marry him, we became a committed couple.

When I birthed our first child, I became a mother, another monumental defining moment in my life. At 4:12 a.m., I was a married woman, without many responsibilities. At 4:14 a.m., I was suddenly but thankfully a mother, with a tiny baby in my arms who was totally dependent on me. Forever, I would now be known as a mother.

When I birthed our first child, I became a mother and we became a family, together for a lifetime.

When our son died in my arms, without warning, I went from being a carefree, confident mother to a weeping, anxious bereaved parent. Forever changed and now clearly defined as a griever, life long, without a vacation to have a break from the tears.

When our son died in my arms, without warning, we became a grieving family, forever.

When I chose to write about my experiences of life and loss, and began to dabble in art as an expression to unleash my creativity, I became an artist, using a random process of mixed media to define my craft. An artist who had a story to tell with a forum to use. Defining in opening a part of my character, my being, that had been hidden and stuffed down, from shame as a child for not staying in the lines and using the colors the teacher expected.

When I became an artist, I began to live again.

We all have defining moments in our lives. It shapes who we were, who we are and who we become.

What are the defining moments that have 
shaped who you have become today?