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March 20, 2016

The Tale of our Tenants.


We have quite reluctantly entered into the world of being Landlords. It wasn't our first plan nor our wish but here we are. When we began to build our new home in 2014, the housing market here was very strong. Our old home is in a very desirable and mature neighborhood, with classic homes, no traffic, tree lined streets, an elementary school down the road and a big lake for beautiful walks, and even boating and skating. We knew it would be an easy sell. But just as we were clearing the finish line, the market dropped. At that point, we knew we'd have to make a decision regarding our home and it's equity. Do we sell low but we're out? Or keep it until the market improves. In the end, it was our daughter who helped us make the big decision. She approached us with an offer to buy her childhood home from us, at market value, once she's ready for home ownership again. However, the catch is that we need to hold on to the house for the next 4 to 5 years. She's still in university and then wants some time to pay down her student loans and save for her down payment. So we agreed and it's been such a relief to know that someone we know will take this home we loved for 24 years and make it her own. Now the big issue has been trying to find suitable tenants to love it for now. And that's where our big adventure started. Ready for the tale? Here is the long winded Tale of our Tenants:

As we were busy renovating the house for tenants, we decided to place a free ad to see what the response would be. It was quite busy and we were impressed with the inquiries. One stood out a bit and we began a conversation. A lovely young family with two little girls, just who we imagined enjoying this very family home. We asked questions, they responded well, they asked questions, and we began a relationship from there. Even though we still had some work to complete, we felt very comfortable showing them the house and they fell in love! It was so nice to see how much they loved the space, the new paint colors we had chosen, the newness of everything. They told us their story of their current situation with their landlord and we felt so bad for them. Apparently, the house they were renting was full of mice and there were other issues around appliances and water. We felt confident at that time that our solid, no cracks so no critters can get in and new appliances would give them a sense of security. We set up a time to meet to sign the lease. The bonus with this family is they were looking for a long term arrangement, as long as 4 to 5 years. Perfect!

As we got closer to a move in date, we met to sign the lease. This is where things began to unravel. First, "forgot" to bring along the damage deposit and a postdated cheque for the first month's rent. But made a promise to drop it off the next day. Or send it by email transfer. Okay, I'm reasonable. In the rush to get out the door, they left the cheque on their kitchen table. Sounds reasonable.

Then when we were about to fill in the dates, they said they had a change of heart and wouldn't actually be signing for a 5 year term. What? That's one of the biggest reasons we chose them is to have stable tenants for a longer term. Okay, we want it rented, so we said we'd agree to a year to year agreement. Then they refused to put their current address on the form. A big story followed about how they wouldn't want us to see the state of the house as it wasn't a true reflection of them but of their landlord. That's where my stomach developed a big knot.

We signed but didn't put a date on for move in - thankfully, that made our lease null and void.

Other signs that things weren't as they seemed: they were very nervous about telling their landlord they'd be moving. We have a note from them in January asking if they can have the house (after they toured it) so they could tell their landlord and give him at least a 6 week notice. We said yes. But in February, when we signed the agreement, just two weeks out from move in, they still hadn't told him. We found out later, from him, that they actually only told him 4 days before they were to move in, which was one of the biggest reasons we pulled the contract. A no brainer but still hard decision.

Although we had checked out the few references they provided, now I wanted to talk to their current landlord. They wouldn't provide this info to us, so we said we'd have to pull the contract. Immediately, the sobbing began. We were told we were making them homeless, as they wouldn't have a home to move to once the truck was filled up on the weekend. They told us more "horror" stories of their current landlord and how unsafe they felt in that home. We said "sorry, until we get his name, no deal". At 4 p.m. that afternoon, they finally sent us his phone number. We called him and he was definitely not the monster they portrayed him to be. He was kind, informative and really answered all our worries so well. Ironically, he's a commercial realtor and he shared how he tried to help this young family and instead of gratitude, all he got was missed rent, a wrecked house and a series of long lies. So there we have it. Confirmation that our initial gut feeling was wrong and our secondary concerns were correct. I thanked him and we all promised to stay in touch. We've talked with him a couple of times since then and his description of the state of his house was more than enough for us to know this was the right decision. I can't imagine what it would have been like to spend all this money to fix up our home, only to have it destroyed by a family who would not care about it, despite their lavish tales of perfect upkeep and fastidious cleaning!! Thankful, so thankful.

So that is The Tale of our Tenants. Now we're back to square one, searching for a lovely family to take on our income property. I know they are out there .... just a matter of finding the right connection.

March 9, 2016

My Slow Poke Day.


I'm a fairly active individual who has a great "to do" list each day and many tasks sitting in the wings to tackle. I get up, have my shower and off I go. I love crossing items off my list and often have expressed how hard it is for me to take time off or just sit. I'm getting better all the time but I'm still a task oriented kind of guy. 

But every once in a while, I encounter a day like today, where my body and my mind, hey, even my soul are moving very, very slowly! A slow poke kind of day! 

We've had three days of fog and cooler weather and that has slowed me down a bit. The sun is finally out today but my body has declared a limit to my movements, so in slow motion, I go. My list is manageable but at 10:48 a.m., I'm no where near to where I'd normally be. Ugh.

To be fair, here's what I did accomplish before I came in to work, just in case you thought I was so slacking off that the bed didn't even get made!!

* woke up 10 minutes earlier 
* warm shower to wash my hair 
* made the bed and gathered the laundry
* opened the blinds and tidied my desk
* made my lunch and took out the compost
* stopped at our old house to put out the
garbage bins and the recycling for pick up
* dropped my dd off at work and came in
to answer phone messages and get the mail
* drove to work and set up for the day
* met my dh who came to move our grandson's
carseat from my car over to his for pick up

Other than writing grants today (my mind is clearly not there!) and making some plans and setting some dates for future events, I'm just hanging out until it's time to pick up my mom to take her to a medical appointment. 

Why this slowdown? No idea, other than in the last month, we've been very busy renovating our other house for new tenants (done) and doing deadline projects like buying our RRSP's for the year (done), completing our taxes before the April 30th deadline (done), setting up appointments with landscapers (done), doctor's appointments (done), submitting health claims (done), meeting with our current house contractors (done), re-organizing our bills at home (done) and making some changes to our decorating (done), it's not been an unusually busy or stressful time. Maybe I'm just still catching up from the nasty cold I've been battling for the last few weeks. It's hanging on but I'm able to keep going. Perhaps it's trying to tell me to slow down! After my mom's appointment today, I can go home early and cozy up on the couch. Dh is at the studio tonight recording sound for a project, so he's going to simmer a big pot of homemade soup for me to sip all night, while I watch recorded programs that I've been waiting to see. Looking forward to a little R n R! Hoping the soup clears up this cold. I'm kind of done with feeling achy and congested.

For now, I just plug along, knowing in a day or two my energy will pick up again and off I go! Turtle pace must have a reason for slowing me down. So I'll take the cue and let it guide me for the rest of this slow poke day.

How is your day going?
Are you in slow poke mode or fast paced?

March 6, 2016

Mothering Sunday.


To all my British readers, wishing you
a very Happy Mothering Sunday!

March 4, 2016

Cozy Corner.

I have the pleasure of having a
number of office spaces. One for
my hospice work, another one for my
preschool work, one for our keeping our 
family functioning and one for my writing.
Each has a purpose and each is different.


This is my office space at the hospice.


An ancient building on a quiet
residential, tree lined street.


My big banker's desk with sunlight on bright
days and lamplight on hazy, gloomy days.


Bookcase to hold my resources for
grieving children, teens and families.


My filing cabinet to hold confidential
files and extra tools and resources.


I love the landscape outside my window.
Beautiful vintage houses and huge trees
that reach for the blue sky. Incredible shade
in the summer and pretty leaves in the fall.

Where do you do your best work?
Do you have more than one office space?

March 1, 2016

Curly Curls.


Though I'm not 100% healthy right now, I had a commitment to attend a dinner party last night with my staff and Board of Directors. I spent time resting, had a long, hot shower and then took a few minutes to curl my hair. What a difference it makes to do this one small task that changes my whole look. The dinner was amazing, the food scrumptious, the service excellent and a grand time was had by all. And everyone played with my hair. Silly people! I can see the appeal. Today, I'm back on the couch, surrounded by warm blankets and fluffy pillows. I have a goal to be better so I can go to work on Thursday. For now, I'm on a regime of advil, Cold FX and extra Vitamin D. A tv to amuse me and this afternoon, warm sunshine to brighten the day. Time for a nap!

February 29, 2016

New Pantry at the Old House.

We asked our contractor to make an 
old book nook into a true pantry. 


This is what he's come up with so far. 
I love it and can't wait to see it completed.

Sweet Scent.


On this gloomy and frosty day, my hyacinth 
is looking grand and smelling so sweet. 

A bit of early spring ....